Setting aside every self-help book out there, I’d like to propose the theory that there is ONE thing you need to be successful, and that you are already in possession of this thing.
You just don’t know it yet.
Ten years ago two marketers started their online journey. They both endured similar pitfalls and setbacks.
One went on to make millions.
The other one failed miserably and works a 9 to 5 job.
What made the difference?
Imagine you have a switch in your brain, and every time you have any kind of setback whatsoever, you flip that switch into finding the positive in it.
No, I’m not talking about pie-in-the-sky rainbows and magic pink unicorn thinking. I’m talking flip your own switch because no one else is going to do it for you.
Instead of getting discouraged, angry or sad, find the good or the lesson in everything that normally gets you down.
This is called resilience. We’re told to be resilient, to bounce back from defeat and just keep moving, but no one tells us how to do that.
So, let me try, and see if this resonates with you.
You get an angry email from a customer. Yeah! This is your chance to make it right while also finding out if there is perhaps a flaw in your product. What an awesome thing to have happen! Your formerly angry customer now understands what happened, they’re thrilled with the attention you paid to them and how you resolved the issue, and you have feedback on how to improve the way customers use your product.
You have trouble with your website. Yeah! Now you get to call your host or your website builder or whoever and let them show you what awesome service they provide. You’re not happy with the result? Yeah! Now you have the perfect reason to go find a new host or webmaster who will make you happy!
You dropped that dish of spaghetti on the floor? Yeah! You’ve been meaning to clean the floor for weeks and this is the perfect motivation to get it done. Now look at it shine!
You missed the light and now you have to wait 3 minutes to get through the intersection? Yeah! If you had made the light, perhaps you would have been involved in a fatal accident that you’ve now missed!
Does all of this sound a bit crazy? Maybe. But your experience is exactly what you make it.
I once went camping with a friend at Yellowstone. As we arrived, it started to rain and it didn’t stop raining for two days and two nights. Yeah! I took it as a challenge and it was one of my best vacations ever. I sang in the rain, danced in the rain, hiked in the rain and listened to the rain on my tent as I fell soundly asleep each night.
My friend, however, decided to be miserable the entire time. He grumbled, complained, go angry, picked fights and spent the entire time wishing he was someplace else. He also wasn’t too happy that I didn’t share his attitude, but oh well! 😉 We shared the same experience, and yet it was positive for me and horrible for him. The only difference was how we chose to view what was happening.
I might be oversimplifying here, but when you boil it all down, I think the only difference between the successful person and the failure is resilience.
Look for the bright side of everything. Sure it’s a cliché, but it is a fact that your experience is what you choose it to be.
Have you ever felt sad or depressed about something, and then you drank some coffee or you took a walk, and now you felt 10 times better about it? The situation didn’t change – you did. And once you have the positive mindset, you can move forward and do whatever it is that needs to be done.
Here are 9 tips for becoming a pro at flipping your mindset to the positive side of life:
Play Opposites – When you think a negative thought such as, “I hate getting on these Zoom meetings,” ask yourself, “What if the opposite were true?”
Friends – Support groups are wonderful for helping you to build this resilience. Talk it out and help each other to see the positives. If they insist on being negative – and let’s face it, some people revel in negativity – then get a new support group.
Greatest Hits – When you’re feeling down about yourself or your abilities, think about times when you did awesome things that totally worked for you.
Self-care – Get enough sleep and eat well. Exercise. All of these things will help you to stay positive and keep moving forward in your business and in your life.
Is it True? – When you notice your negative thoughts are spiraling out of control, ask yourself if those thoughts are true. 9 times out of 10 you’ll realize the negative thoughts are a distortion and out of touch with reality.
Acceptance – Instead of negatively judging yourself for being pessimistic, accept your current mindset and stop fighting it. Then set it aside and move on.
Humor – Can’t find the positive in the situation? Then pretend 5 years have gone by and you’re telling someone the story of what just happened. Find the funny in it and make your friend laugh.
Use Your Power – You always – ALWAYS – have the power to choose how you will view circumstances. Maybe right now you choose to feel bad, but realize that is indeed your choice. Try choosing to feel just 1% better and see what happens.
Body Language – Emotions follow the body and not the other way around. When you force yourself to smile, stand tall and raise your arms overhead in a victory gesture, you feel better. Even holding a pencil sideways in your mouth will activate your smile muscles and improve your mood.
Now I know that some people reading this will have a strong rebuttal for me that goes like this: “We’re in the middle of a pandemic, my life is upside down and people are getting sick and even dying. How am I supposed to mind shift into positivity?”
All of that is 100% true. But can you think of a better or more important time in your life to practice resilience and find the good in everything you possibly can?
The next time something is getting you down, go take a walk. Or play your favorite music. Or pet your dog or talk to someone.
Taking a break is a good thing because it gives you the perspective you sometimes need to keep moving forward.
Practice flipping the switch in your brain each time things don’t go the way you planned. This life-skill will see you through the tough times and ensure massive success in the good times.
Flip the switch. Know that resilience is your strongest defense.
Find the positive. I promise you that it’s there somewhere.
And smile, because no matter what it is, this too shall pass.